Tag Archive 'Tragedies'

Oct 02 2011

Sometimes the Road We’re On in Life Takes a Detour

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Flathead Lake, MTSometimes we start down a road in life, only to find we’re on a different road than we anticipated. That would certainly describe my life this last four years. It was like a giant detour or at least that’s the way it feels. The one thing I have missed is blogging. It’s been quite a while. It’s time to come back. Maybe not in the same way – after all I’ve changed, but never-the-less I have the need to reconnect.

It seems that with every passing year, the knowledge that life is precious becomes bigger and bigger. Yeah, there’s the tragedies. People get sick, people die, the economy turns bad, people lose jobs. Lots of not-so-great things happen. But I also think that that sometimes things happen that force us to slow down and see the beauty. When I was a kid, one of my favorite  pastimes was laying on the lawn, watching the clouds go by. I’ve been doing a lot more of that type of thing lately.

I just recently had to place a friend (only 64) in a Memory Care unit, someone I’ve been care-taking for 3+ years. When I visited him the other day, he couldn’t wait to show me the beautiful mountains out his window. For now, that’s the beauty in his life.

I love what Dewitt Jones philosophy is “Celebrate What’s Right with the World!” His goal is to take a photo of something each day that epitomizes that saying.

We all can see the negatives. The question is “Can You See the Positives?” I hope so and I plan on continuing to also.

Take the time, just take the time.

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Aug 31 2009

Build Your Future With Gratitude

I recently listened to a video about a man who had learned that gratitude is not something we can pick and choose the circumstances to apply it to. Rather the key is to be grateful for everything in our lives – both those that we perceive to be positive and those that we perceive to be negative. It is the combination of those opposing experiences that make us who we are, i.e. we would not be the same person if we had not had cancer or a heart attack or lost someone we love.  As painful as those experiences may have been, they make us who we are and for that we must be grateful. We have the power within us to shape our responses to tragedies in our lives.

Henri Nouwen, a Dutch Roman Catholic priest, believes that  gratitude must be inclusive. We must be grateful for all of our life, not just for favors bestowed.  In his book, All Is Grace, he says,

“…how often we tend to divide our past into good things to remember with gratitude and painful things to accept or forget.  Once we accept this division, however, we quickly develop a mentality in which we hope to collect more good memories than bad memories, more things to be grateful for than things to be resentful about….  But this way of thinking… prevents us from truly allowing our whole past to be the source from which we live our future. “

“Gratitude is not a simple emotion or an obvious attitude.  It is a difficult discipline to constantly reclaim my whole past… It is hard precisely because it challenges me to face the painful moments… When our gratitude for the past is only partial, our hope for a new future can never be full.”

And here is a video of Nick Vujicic who is full of gratitude and lives that each day.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4uG2kSdd-4

Are you building your future with gratitude for all things in your life?

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