What Are You Saying to Yourself?

Published by at 9:44 PM under Creating Success

Have you ever listened to your self-talk – all the things you’re telling yourself all day?  I mean really listened. You might be surprised at what you’re saying to yourself. It’s like a conversation going on all the time.

Some are things you’ve been told over the years, many times as a child. A lot of times it can be negative – since those are the things we tend to remember people saying to us. So it’s easy to fall into negative self-talk. Things like – ‘you screwed up again’ or ‘you’ll never be able to do that’. Think about what would happen if your self-talk was positive. Do you think it could change your life? There is considerable evidence that it very much affects your life, both physically and mentally.

Your subconscious mind does not make distinctions between negative and positive thoughts. It treats them both in the same way. So saying “I don’t want to get sick” is the same as saying “I want to get sick” to your subconscious. The subconscious doesn’t hear the negative word. To re-frame your self-talk you would say to yourself “I want to be healthy” or something to that effect. The subconscious mind accepts and regards often-repeated thoughts, statements, or self-talk, as commands. So your subconscious then searchs for ways to make it come true. So your thoughts shape your life – either positively or negatively.

If your self-talk is negative, one of the ways to begin changing it is to write down a list of affirmations. It could be many different topics but it should cover your finances, relationships, spirituality, health  and community.

Now take that list and make some positive statements from it.

Here are some basic guidelines:

  1. Use only positive words to describe what you want.
  2. Be very specific. The clearer you are the easier it is to visualize when you repeat it.
  3. Phrase the affirmation in the present tense. By doing that you begin to see yourself as having already achieved the goal, not at some time in the future.
  4. Keep them short so they’re easy to remember.
  5. Put some emotion and feelings into them. Not just “I am my ideal weight” but rather “I am now my ideal weight and look drop-dead gorgeous in that red dress.” Which one brings up a more vivid mental pictures?
Repeat affirmations several times a day. Starting your day with your affirmations sets the tone for your day and helps you keep focused on those positive elements. When you end your day with your affirmations, the subconscious mind has all night to work on it while you sleep. Repeat affirmations aloud, silently, or by writing them down. The most effective is writing them down. Take just one and concentrate on that for 30 days. Write it on a card and slip it in your pocket. Whenever you reach into your pocket, you’re reminded of that affirmation. Bringing your positive thoughts into your mind on a continual basis will help your mind to search out those ways to bring that affirmation into reality.

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2 Responses to “What Are You Saying to Yourself?”

  1. Keith Braithwaiteon 04 Jul 2009 at 6:30 AM

    A great post. Thanks, Karen. You explain the subconscious very well.

    I am presently facing redundancy and want to make it a positive experience – to redesign my life, if you will. Your blog has helped me to understand how to change my mindset.

    Incidentely, can I quote you on a blog I am writing? with full links of course.

    Kind Regards.

  2. Karenon 04 Jul 2009 at 6:38 AM

    Keith:
    Thank you for your kind comment. I hope it will help you to make those changes you’re looking for – it’s not easy to change habits.
    Yesterday when you were commenting I was moving my blog to http://www.wealthpossibilities.com (upgrading it). (I have moved your comment over to the new URL today) Please come check it out.
    Yes you certainly may quote me on your blog
    Good luck

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